The Different Faces Of Curiousity Regarding My CP.

13 May

Since starting my memoir this past January, the number one thing that I have realized is that no one knows exactly how I felt growing up and living with Cerebral Palsy except me. As a writer, that can often be a hard way to start off since I don’t have other sources to gather much information from. I just have my own memories and feelings of how my CP has impacted my life.

Even though I may have friends and family who want to understand, no one can say they know exactly what I faced. Growing up, not having anyone who understood was hard. I attended a private school in my hometown from 1st grade until 10th grade, and even though the kids that I went to school with were some of the same kids that could be found on my street on the weekends playing in front yards and riding their bikes up and down the sidewalk, they didn’t really know me. They wondered about me, that I could tell. The way they stared but never said anything told me how they felt. Growing up, I hated the staring, and I still do. However, when I was at school and didn’t have much of anything to “hide behind,” there was no way to escape the staring. The kids I went to private school with hardly ever asked what was wrong with me. Either their parents had told them, or they just weren’t sure. As I was growing up, I quickly learned that I was the one that was going to have to initiate friendships. People weren’t going to walk up to me begging to hang out with me or sit with me at lunch, and that was something I had to deal with early on.

Therefore, I initiated things. I had to let other kids know that I was comfortable with myself so that they could be comfortable with me. When the other kids asked what was wrong with me, I’d say, “I have Cerebral Palsy. I was born with it.” That seemed to satisfy most of the kids. Though I knew they still didn’t fully understand, they were curious. All kids are curious. Therefore, I just had to find a way to answer their question without having to go into so much detail (since I didn’t fully understand things when I was that young either). Heck, I didn’t understand why I was different from all the other kids my age, so how could I explain that to the kids I went to school with. I couldn’t. It’s that simple.

These days, I’ve been hesitant to explain to friends about my CP just because I’ve realized that for most of them, it doesn’t matter. They are my friends, and they could care less about what’s wrong with me because to them it’s not a big deal. To them, it doesn’t define me. Even though it took me a long time to be able to vocally say that my Cerebral Palsy doesn’t define who I am, I have reached a point where I can talk about my CP with my friends (which I think is because I have started writing my memoir and am no longer afraid to be my true self). No, my CP doesn’t define me. However, it still affects me on a day-to-day basis. That’s not something that can be denied. Therefore, when I’ve told my friends about my CP, it hasn’t been hard for me. It’s been easier to talk about, and after I’ve opened up about it, I’ve gotten so much support from my friends about my strength and courage. And in my mind, getting that kind of response is worth facing the fear of talking about the disability that, though it may not define me, has impacted me on a physical and emotional level that most people can’t even fathom.

For me, every single day is a struggle, which is not something that most people know. Most people don’t realize that I still feel a large amount of physical pain, especially in my back, which often causes me to stop, place my hand on my lower back, and breathe through the pain. Even on the days when the pain gets bad though, I choose to be a fighter. I choose to be a fighter because honestly, what other choice do I have? Giving up has never been an option for me, and so rather than simply allowing myself to wallow in self-pity, I’ve learned to thrive.

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11 Responses to “The Different Faces Of Curiousity Regarding My CP.”

  1. spashionistareport May 13, 2012 at 12:27 pm #

    I was lucky enough to have grown up before political correctness made people whisper behind your back rather than ask you directly about anything that is deemed as “different” about you. Whether they are disabled or not it takes most people a long time to get comfortable in their own skin. The more comfortable and confident you are the more likely others are to approach you and forget about your disability fairly quickly πŸ™‚

    • ameliaclaire92 May 13, 2012 at 2:58 pm #

      Very true. It can take quite a while to develop that kind of confidence though.

  2. Marti MacGibbon May 13, 2012 at 4:06 pm #

    Very thoughtful and wonderful post. Thank you.

  3. Linds May 13, 2012 at 10:01 pm #

    Amazing glimpse on your life growing up, Amelia. In the short (though wonderful) time I’ve been following your blog, I had no idea you have CP. Thanks for sharing these thoughts…your strength is very admirable! xoxo

    • ameliaclaire92 May 13, 2012 at 10:03 pm #

      Thank you so much. And thanks for following. I’ve enjoyed following your blog as well. πŸ™‚

  4. sherrylcook May 14, 2012 at 12:24 am #

    I understand you completely, growing up with a disability of any form is frightening. It forces us to learn self preservation techniques that helps us get through. My disability was unique and even drs. Had never seen anything like it. I will never forget the comments and stares, but it builds character and makes us strong. You are persevering and will surely not be defined by CP!
    Hugs, Sherry

  5. Kate(caneable) May 15, 2012 at 1:14 pm #

    If you like Barbara Kingsolver and you are interested in reading books that portray characters with CP, try The Poisonwood Bible. I have CP too and it affects all of my limbs. Like you, I am interested in so much more than the CP itself and want to comment on many more things in my writing. Love your book & music reviews! πŸ™‚

  6. belasbrightideas May 21, 2012 at 1:52 pm #

    Amelia, it’s nice that you are bringing this out into the open. I’m so glad to live in a time where so much that remained hidden in my generation has come to light. You are a voice in the wilderness for other sufferers, just as you illuminate and demystify the condition for those of us ‘on the outside.’ Blessings to you, dear.

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